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I recently read a blog post from Ryan Holiday about a neighbor he interviewed in Austin, Texas. The neighbor turned out to be Richard Overton, the oldest living veteran in America at 110 years old. That’s where I came across the quote “Staying alive is a full-time job.” I get the context of the words from someone who is 110—it’s sort of mind-blowing really—but I am 56 years old, just over the halfway mark to Richard’s ripe age, and I can’t imagine living another 54 years. However, what I can imagine quite easily is that staying alive is a full-time job. Let me explain.

My husband and I are not considered essential workers, so in the midst of the current global pandemic, we’ve both been fortunate enough to be able to work remotely. We’ve been able to do our work from home, collect a paycheck, and remain isolated and therefore healthy. I am the designated weekly grocery shopper, which I now do gleefully, simply to have an outing. But in reality, I don’t need to leave the house, even for groceries. (Thank you, Instacart.) This leads to me wonder where all my spare time is going. Shouldn’t I have several hours of extra time each day since I’m not commuting, have no social engagements, and am not visiting additional stores? I’m not that great at math, but things aren’t adding up. Why am I hearing from so many people—even from remote, non-essential workers who are in a similar enviable position to us—that we are all exhausted? What have we done with all our freed-up time?

Although there are probably many answers to these questions, I truly resonate with Richard Overton’s comment that staying alive is a full-time job. I would also add to this and say that staying alive and remaining physically, emotionally, and spiritually well is a full-time job. I figure it is my job to stay as healthy as I can within the realm of things I can control, which includes what I eat, how much I exercise, what sort of routine I have, what my online consumption consists of, and how many hours I spend in front of a screen. These are things over which I have personal agency to support my well-being or self-destruct. Knowing this, I have focused my efforts on getting enough sleep, eating the right foods, and performing regular exercise. I figure if these three are functional and healthy, I will be and feel functional and healthy.

You have this same personal agency when it comes to the things in your life. Are you aware of what you are doing to stay alive? Or do you just survive the day? Although there’s value in knowing how to simply survive the day, that M.O. may not be sustainable for the long haul. You also need to know what practices keep you alive, healthy, and well.

This worksheet might be a good starting point to help you better connect to yourself and find what supports your own well-being.